So, this is not fitness related whatsoever, but I came across this article a few weeks ago, and I have felt compelled to share it ever since. First of all, for those pregnant, moms or people considering getting pregnant at some point in the future ever, you need to follow The Pregnant Chicken on Facebook. If you’re pregnant, sign up for the weekly updates, they are fucking hilarious. Anyway, back to this post.
I somehow managed to get by with two healthy pregnancies and three healthy kids. I’m not sure how, I’m not sure why, but the fact that every single baby is a true fucking miracle is not lost on me. I haven’t been through loss (at least not with babies) and miscarriage personally, but I have some people that I love with all my heart that have had to deal with this over and over again, and it’s honestly unthinkable. No one knows what to say or how to act. There are no right words or right actions, and I’ve had different friends going through similar situations who want/need completely different things (whether it’s complete seclusion or meals to their house every night). Then on top of all the pain, these people show up at baby showers, love on my babies, put smiles on their faces when everyone around them is announcing their pregnancy, etc. They are strong as shit. I wish I had read this article a year or so ago. I’ve said so many dumb things (with good intentions) to people going through hell.
OMG, I’ll never forget last August when I saw a friend at an event, she had just had a loss (one of many) and I was huge and pregnant (and sweating like a fucking pig in the 105 degree Charleston weather), which must have been hard for her to see me pregnant to beginwith. She asked me how I was feeling and if I was ready for baby #3 (which was so nice of her considering how she must have been feeling), and I went into some kind of autopilot, socially awkward mode and said “ugh, I’m so over it!” What?!?!? I just told this person who would do anything in the whole world to be pregnant that I’m so over being pregnant?!!!! Am I the dumbest fucking person EVER!?!? I literally beat myself up (and had many sleepless nights) about that idiotic comment for months. People say dumb shit, even with the best intentions. But I hope you read this article, and maybe we can all stop being accidental assholes to these people who are going through hell.